In recent weeks, I have been saddened by the passing of two women that greatly impacted me as a young parent. Both women continued to be important mentors and friends for over 20 years while we were involved in the same church.   Due to family obligations I was unable to attend the service for the first one that passed away.  At the recent visitation for the second friend to pass away, we saw many others who impacted my life during our time in that church family. Her husband was also very integral in our lives for those many years, but due to his battle with dementia, he was unable to be there.  Conversations at the visitation have left me taking many journeys down Memory Lane this week.  

As I remember particular moments in my early parenting days, I realize I never truly let each of these friends know how much they mean to me.  In addition to the loss of these wonderful friends, I learned another sweet lady who truly showed me the most amazing compassion is also now battling dementia.  My earliest memory of her was at the funeral home the day we laid our tiny infant son to rest.  As she and her husband reached us, she simply hugged me and said she was very sorry for our loss.  Then she just remained by my side for some time while I sat in utter shock and despair. She showed what is needed most for many when they lose a loved one – simple compassion.  That simple hug and brief words followed by her nearness as I gathered my thoughts have often filled me with sweet memories of a very difficult day.  

I hope the feelings I have experienced in recent weeks over the loss of these friends will help me to remember daily to do several things. First: thank God daily for the impact they had in my life. Second: let those that are still living know how much they impacted my life in a positive way. And third: if they are now living in eternity with God, let their loved ones know just what an impact their loved ones had in my life. I no longer want to have moments of regret for failing to stay in touch with precious loved ones.  I challenge you to let those who have made a positive impact on your life know how much you appreciate them. No matter how many years have passed since you last saw them!  

Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. Hebrews 13:7

Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:4-5